BalAnce Blog – BalAnce Well-Being Centre Inc.

Are you in it to win it? by Aly Pain

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“I don’t want to do it your way!”

“Just because you didn’t grow up with (fill in the blank) doesn’t make it wrong!”

“Why can’t you just love me for who I am?”

Insert your whatever else your throws out that has your body tense and prepare for what’s coming next.

Arguing helps your teen develop critical thinking/analysis, strategic thought, independent thoughts and beliefs as their brain is densifying to handle more complex computing. Their emotional brains are more raw and sensitive until early adulthood when the densification is complete.

Even if you knew that, it’s REALLY HARD not to get hooked by your own fight or flight response that quickly puts you in the offense, or defense, whichever feels more powerful.

5 Key to Living Your True Potential

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I came across a quote today by Laurel Thatcher Ulrich that stated this “Well behaved women seldom make history” and it got me thinking of the all women I look up to in the media as well as in my own life.

All the women that I admire did not get there by playing it safe; they took risks, asked for what they wanted, they did not wait in the side lines for an invitation, they weren’t afraid to say “no” to what is not serving them and “yes” to their dreams, and most importantly they were not afraid of ruffling a few feathers along the way because it meant that they were honoring themselves. I mean, even Oprah has probably pissed off a few people and that woman is practically a freaking saint!

I’m not saying that you need to become a complete badass by leaving your family for some guy named Rick that rides a Harley or start partying like you’re 20 years old again but it’s time you say goodbye to the “good girl” persona. The woman in you that knows you are playing small is screaming at you to let it go, she is begging you to start living up to your true potential!

Not Just My Opinion by Courtney Kafka

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It has been a while since I last wrote an article. Things have been all over the place for me as of late, so I apologize.

The sun is at last shinning in the city I now call home and has inspired me to step out of my subject writing and provide you with outside sources of information about Bowen Therapy.

I am of course a huge believer in it. But then again I’m biased and I know it. So I went digging for some other research on the effectiveness of Bowen Therapy, or Bowen Technique. In the hope I could find something that was more based off some actual research.

Here it goes:

You belong by Pamela Lynch

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Your presence here is an invitation to remember you are love, and you belong.

I invite you to close your eyes and place your attention on your heart. Feel the word, the energy of belonging.

So many of us have navigated this life feeling that we don’t belong. We get to change that story when we are ready.

My old story was I grew up in the Air Force, and we moved a dozen times by the time I was 12. I was the new kid who felt this foreboding sense of attracting the school bully on my first day of school, which was rarely in September. At my core, I thought I didn’t belong. I didn’t fit in.

Can you relate?

What Can You Get Away With? by Cherie Hanson

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What is your personal margin of error? Is a drip on the carpet the end of the known universe as you know it? Or do you run wild and throw those black work out pants into a washing machine full of fuzz spewing sweaters and towels?

Each of us has an operating system that we let gauge our choices. What we are currently having to adapt to as a worldwide phenomenon is the unknown. When I was growing up what was unknown became more and more clarified through my knowing. If I knew one particular law of reality and lived within it, I was more likely to understand the unknown.

Babies drop a toy off of the high chair tray repeatedly engaging in a physics experiment. Will the object once released from the hand always fall to the floor? The only way to know is to conduct the experiment until you are satisfied.

Addiction by Annette Adkin

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Though living in Kelowna has many opportunities to connect and enjoy outdoor activities it also has many people who are feeling distressed and disconnected. Being distressed and not coping with life?s challenges can lead to addiction. People are trying to soothe their uneasiness and feel better. One of the biggest reasons people are prone to addiction is the presence of childhood trauma. It is great to have a few drinks by the lake or at an event in the Okanagan, but what if this leads to too many drinks, a disconnect in my relationship or consequences that I don?t feel great about afterwards.

There are 7 main addictions which are food, sex, drugs, alcohol, technology, money and unhealthy relationship patterns but for today we will focus on alcohol. When someone struggles with an addiction, they need to learn more about coping strategies and skills to help them. I also talk about recovery meaning recovering the parts of myself that were missing from my childhood. In my practice I talk about being ?addicted to turning away? from myself and things that are important in my life.

I describe addiction like someone else is driving my car and I am in the back seat saying I don?t think this is a good idea but I continue to do this behavior with negative consequences. If you are ready to make some changes or you just want to gain more knowledge to get to your next better step, contact Annette Adkin. She has over 25 yrs of experience in helping people grow and develop successful practices.

250-878-7035

https://pureinsights.ca

Keeping Your Cool in the Heat of the Moment By Maggie Reigh

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Children and teens are experts at pressing their parents’ buttons. Most of them have honed their button pressing skills over the span of their lifetime – for some of them it may be their greatest and most cherished accomplishment! And if you’re like most parents, including myself, you probably “lose it” on occasion. And you probably feel guilty later… and then lose it again, and so on. It becomes an established pattern and guilt-tripping ourselves about it is not helpful. In fact, guilt keeps the pattern going because it makes us feel bad and stresses us out even more, and so we blow again.

So how does one break this pattern? First, stop and really recognize the toll it takes on you and your children. During one of our 9 Ways to Bring out the Best in You and Your Child Leadership Training sessions, two facilitators were exploring the concept of punishment verses effective discipline. In a staged demonstration, suddenly one of the facilitators blew up at a participant. “Sherry! How many times have I told you to quit talking! Now you get to your room, right now! I’m tired of these interruptions,” she bellowed and hauled Sherry up off the couch and down the hall to her room.

SPOTLIGHT – Tricia Veltri by Tom Kernaghan

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Awaken from your past, release yourself from limiting beliefs, and begin a journey toward the happy and healthy life you deserve. The path of healing and self-acceptance can be difficult and painful, but you are not alone. Tricia Veltri, the owner of Core Level Healing Therapy, gets you, and she also gets that taking control of one’s inner world requires a commitment to change and a willingness to work. Tricia holds a master’s degree in counselling, is a registered psychotherapist and certified EMDR(™) practitioner, and she is here to get you beyond your barriers to better relationships — starting with the one you have with yourself.

Tricia specializes in the struggles that keep women imprisoned within — trauma, anxiety, stress, and relationship challenges — and treats her clients the way she would want to be treated: “keep it real” to help you heal. For Tricia, it’s not about meditating on a mountaintop. It’s about fully and skillfully engaging those who are ready to go to the core, root out old patterns, and form new habits. Tricia understands this process on a professional level and on a personal one: she has walked her own road to recovery and reclamation.

I was eager to find out more about Tricia’s work, and her journey.

May on the acreage by Sherry Lukey

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May on the acreage can be a little overwhelming because there’s a lot of grass to cut, planting, weeding, watering, etc. I love being outside and doing all those things. However, keeping up with the spring growth takes extra time, and in the past, it would trigger guilt for me.

Guilt.

Before I discovered EFT tapping, we moved to the acreage, and I felt so guilty because I didn’t feel worthy of having such a beautiful piece of property. I didn’t really feel deserving of much, actually, and I had no idea how much my low-self worth negatively impacted me and my life.

Lizards and Snakes and Bugs, Oh MY! by Debra Kelly

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When you’re hanging out with friends and sharing a few Corona’s the conversation can lead to some interesting wildlife stories.

Undoubtedly someone will always try and ‘one up’ the other to win the best ‘worst encounter with a bug or animal’ story. We Canadians can tell some great black bear encounters or moose tales, but Mexico animal stories wins all!

Everyone lucky enough to live in Cabo has experienced some crazy and scary encounters with a scorpion or giant spider and with time the story gets more and more exciting. My lizard story is a good one.