“Just because you didn’t grow up with (fill in the blank) doesn’t make it wrong!”
“Why can’t you just love me for who I am?”
Insert your whatever else your throws out that has your body tense and prepare for what’s coming next.
Arguing helps your teen develop critical thinking/analysis, strategic thought, independent thoughts and beliefs as their brain is densifying to handle more complex computing. Their emotional brains are more raw and sensitive until early adulthood when the densification is complete.
Even if you knew that, it’s REALLY HARD not to get hooked by your own fight or flight response that quickly puts you in the offense, or defense, whichever feels more powerful.