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Belittlement and beratement are not forms of motivation

When do we hit the tipping point that makes toxic workplaces obsolete?

For a while, it has felt like toxic cultures and toxic leadership would never improve. Until now. In the last few years, I’ve been
starting to feel a shift. People all over the globe are saying, “I won’t work like this anymore”. “I deserve better.” Workers everywhere
are taking positive action for better work and workplace environments.

When you fall sick, you are told that getting better takes time, but you have a role to play in your healing. You can’t just sit around
and wait to heal; sometimes, you need to take positive action to support your healing and hasten your recovery.

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Healing is a space that more people are entering because they are tired of carrying the weight of the past and are ready to unbind old conditioning that places limits on their happiness.



People all over the world are actively finding ways to heal themselves in much greater numbers than in past generations.



The work of letting go does not feel as mysterious as it used to, because therapists and meditation techniques can now clearly walk you through the process.



We have much further to go in regard to accessibility, but it is undeniable that healing tools are now available to greater numbers of people.



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As a Bowen Therapist I hear this a lot. Why do I feel like crap? Why am I in such pain? Why do I hurt so much
I can’t give you a definitive answer, but I can point you in the right direction.

There are several reasons for you feeling like crap.

1. Your nervous system is overwhelmed with stress! We are tied to our phones, computers, the radio, the news, work and life. If you aren’t turning these stimulus off and finding a calming, grounding activity to do the stress will just cause the same issues.

2. You don’t really sleep, and when you do its not very restful.

3. Your gut health isn’t very good which means you crave sugar and carbs, which in turn makes you feel worse.

4. Your inflamed which means puffiness, bloat and feeling like your clothes are too tight.

5. You have headaches everyday, feel like yuck and you just can’t seem to really breath. When you do try to breath deeply, things feel sticky. And why can’t you get rid of that darn cough?

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For most people, the questions that immediately come to mind are:

 

• What are standard house cleaning rates?
• Is it safe to have cleaners in my home?
• What do residential house cleaners do?

These are excellent questions, and it is advisable to know the answers before hiring any residential cleaning service. Yet people often overlook the other important questions. You don’t want any surprises! What if your pets are suddenly getting sick from exposure to toxic cleaning products? What if a new cleaner shows up and you don’t have the time to go over everything? Here are nine questions that may help you avoid some common pitfalls when hiring your cleaning company.

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I’ve always been a channeler, even before I knew what it was.

As a child, I would bring my mom a coffee in the morning, sit on her bed, and we would chat. Gradually, the conversation became more advanced, involving insights my young mind could not have generated. They were coming through me.

It was a strange experience. It was as though I was sitting next to me, hearing words coming from my mouth, and thinking, “I didn’t know that.” Afterward, I’d feel as though I’d had electricity running through my spine, such was the energy of the channeling experience.

In his book, “Evolution’s End”, Joseph Chilton Pearce talks about an incident in which his five-year-old came into his room, delivered a dissertation on everything he needed to know for his lecture that day, and left. Later on, when he brought this up with his son, the child had no memory of the experience. Children are natural channels, receiving from the world around them without interference. There were times I would receive snatches of wisdom from my children, for example, who might spontaneously make up a song that contained answers I needed in that moment.

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What little voice? I don’t have one. Yes you do. We all do. It’s the chatter that goes on in your brain. Some call it monkey mind.
Whatever your little voice says sounds perfectly. That’s the problem. You tend to listen to it too much because it does sound logical and you end up believing it.
Your little voice is the sum of all the experiences and advice you’ve had in your life and really haven’t been thinking about.
It’s your reptilian brain or amygdala and it’s 400 million years old. It’s that part of your brain that talks to you and boy it does a lot of talking. Sadly we tend to believe what it says is true. It comes up with it gets triggered by something.
Your little voice is mine, it’s yours, your parents, teachers, friends, and spouse. All people with good intentions trying to protect you by telling you what to do.
There is a little voice inside of you that REALLY knows what to do and knows what’s best for you. Your spirit is your ultimate little voice that is truly you. It says things like this is what you’re meant to do. You’re good. Keep going. We only hear it once in a while. Not often enough.
We all have the ability to recognize that little voice and use it to accomplish things. So often that little voice sabotages us. We say we want one thing, then we do another. We say we want to be successful but we sabotage the job interview.  We say we want to be thin but we eat too much. We say we want to be smart but we skip class or don’t read that book the boss lent us.
Your little voice is there for a reason. It can keep us from doing stupid things like jumping out of a plane without a parachute. It kept us safe as kids, stopping us from stepping out into traffic so we don’t want to eliminate it, we want to manage it.
We become pre-programmed with our little voice. For instance, my grade 7 teacher told me I wasn’t good at math. So every time I had to calculate something my little voice said oh, you can’t do that and I’d pull out a calculator. When I had to take a stats course for my Purchasing certification, my little voice said: “How am I going to pass this course?” So our experiences can pre-program us with certain automatic responses, but we can unlearn that.

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Life is a series of learning experiences and many of its lessons come in the form of human experiences. Most of us think that the relationships that are pleasurable are blessings in our lives. But every single person we come in contact with provides a unique opportunity for our inner self to either evolve or degenerate. Relationships, especially those driven by conflict push us outside our comfort zone. Often the principles taught by these encounters are ones that would be hard for us to grasp on our own?things like forgiveness, humility (not being defensive and really listening to someone else?s needs/ reality) and compassion.

So in the big picture even relationships that we would describe as ?bad? can be good if we are willing to learn, be vulnerable yet also have boundaries that protect ourselves. If we are not strong in these areas, this relationship gives us an opportunity to work on these areas. Continue Reading